A child's role in divorce

 Posted on January 24, 2013 in Divorce

Many people are under the impression that in the case of an amicable divorce, the children are not affected. However, according to a report by the Chicago Tribune, children are affected in a negative manner by most divorces, and it does affect the way that children see things such as religion.

Researchers revealed that the Christian environment has long stood by the belief that as long as everyone involved in a divorce gets along and that there are no major conflicts, that things are going to be great. In situations such as this, children are overlooked. They do not deal with the issue of the actual breakdown of the nuclear family and how the fact that the parents are no longer together may affect the children in a less obvious way. In some cases, the children feel worse because they can&t understand why their parents are splitting up if there is no fighting or no obvious problem in the family. Children often internalize the issues of the parents and feel as if they had some kind of fault in the situation.

One researcher, who is also a child of divorced parents, states that children of divorce do tend to be less religious later in life than their peers who come from two parent homes, because they feel that they are not understood. They felt alone even inside of the church family. There are issues with trust being broken when a family breaks apart and that breach of trust often carries over into other parts of the child’s life on into adulthood.

If you have children and you find yourself on the brink of divorce, you need to speak with an experienced and empathetic Illinois divorce attorney in Arlington Heights, Illinois. Your attorney will be able to negotiate matters of spousal support, child support, the division of marital assets as well as other divorce issues. Leaving these matters with your attorney allows you to take the extra time with the children to make sure that the transition is as smooth as possible.