The Dangers of Taking Divorce Too Lightly

 Posted on April 21, 2017 in Divorce

Most people are uncomfortable with confrontation to certain extent. While there are exceptions, you may have heard the phrase “going along to get along” used to describe the actions of a person looking to avoid a fight by placating someone else. This is a common trait among people with a so-called “easy going” personality. Going along to get along is a reasonable approach for most situations in life—deciding where to have dinner, for example, is not worth fighting about. When it comes to divorce, however, being afraid of making waves could leave you at a serious disadvantage, possibly for the rest of your life.

Divorce Is Not Easy But It Is Worth the Effort

Nobody will try to tell you that a divorce is a simple undertaking. Just making a list of the issues that must be addressed can be overwhelming, not to mention actually addressing them. Despite the complications that may arise, the reality of a divorce is rather straightforward: if you do not advocate for yourself, nobody else will do it for you. If you think you are entitled to spousal support from your spouse, ask for it. If you want primary parental responsibilities regarding your children, develop your ideal parenting plan and present it to the court.

Common Divorce Pitfalls

There are a number of reasons that you may want to avoid confrontation in your divorce. You could be so tired of your spouse that you just want him or her to be out of your life. On the other hand, maybe you have been separated for a while and have met someone new. In either situation, you may be tempted to just agree to whatever terms your spouse proposes so the process can be completed faster and you can move on with your life.

You may also be hesitant to stand up for yourself because your role in your marriage has conditioned you to appease your spouse. Caring for your spouse during your marriage is one thing; giving him or her full control over your divorce is quite another.

Understand the Dangers

If you simply acquiesce to your spouse’s wishes in your divorce, you could seriously compromise your rights and your future. The circumstances of your situation may be such that maintenance is reasonable, but you could let your spouse convince you that you do not need it. The same is true regarding property division and parental responsibilities. If you let your spouse dictate the terms of your property settlement or parenting plan, you could be short-changed without even knowing it.

An experienced Lombard family law attorney can help you protect yourself during a divorce. You may not be thrilled about the idea of confrontation, but our lawyers understand how to get results with minimal contentiousness and stress. If litigation is necessary, we will remain at your side, providing the representation you deserve at every turn. Contact A. Traub & Associates for a confidential consultation today.

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