Going Through a Divorce This Holiday Season?

 Posted on December 18, 2015 in Divorce

The winter holidays, for many, are a time filled with joy, laughter, and family get-togethers. At the same time, you may feel like you are being pulled in a million directions, with presents to buy and wrap, food to prepare, and, often, travel arrangements to be made. That is not even to mention concerns related to work, school, or other obligations. For those who are in the midst of a divorce, however, the holidays can seem almost empty, and devoid of the happiness they once promised. If you are going through a divorce, there are some thing you will probably want to keep in mind.

Stay Involved

As tempting as it may be to sit home and to avoid the company of others, consider pushing yourself to go out and interact. The feelings of loneliness and sadness are a natural part of the divorce process, and there is nothing wrong with you for feeling that way. But isolating yourself during the holidays may not be the best solution. Make the effort to see family and friends, even it is not the most comfortable. Allow yourself to be distracted, even if just for a little while, and if loved ones offer support, do your best to accept it graciously.

Plan for the Future

For many, time during divorce may seem to be at a complete standstill. It can feel like there will never be anything better. The reality is, though, that soon you will be able to move on, and doing so starts with a plan. In the spirit of the upcoming New Year, start deciding on the changes you want to make in your life and how you will make them. Call it a New Year’s resolution if it helps, but develop a plan for building the future you want and deserve.

Make It About the Kids

Of course, many aspects of a divorce can be made more complex if you have children, but your kids may also be able to help you through a tough holiday season. Working with your soon-to-be ex may be challenge, but your children deserve a happy holiday. Both of you would do well to keep that in mind as you try to make the necessary scheduling and travel arrangement. Focus on your children’s happiness, though overspending is not a good idea, and you may find your own spirits lifted considerably.

When you need assistance for any type of divorce or child-related legal concern, during the holidays or any other time of the year, contact an experienced Arlington Heights family law attorney at A. Traub & Associates. We will provide the quality representation you deserve and will work hard to ensure that your rights under the law are fully protected.

Sources:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sheila-blagg/the-first-holidays-after-_b_8721908.html

http://detroit.cbslocal.com/2015/12/15/advice-to-divorced-parents-for-weathering-holiday-traps/