Marital Myths: Breaking Traditional Marital Laws to Ensure Everyday is Valentine’s Day

 Posted on February 08, 2014 in Divorce

With Valentine's Day quickly approaching, perhaps the best present you can give your spouse is permission to break the top ten traditional marriage laws handed down from generation to generation - many of which our grandmothers whispered to us right before heading down the aisle!

 Recently Woman's Day and Barbara Bartlein, RN, MSW granted all married couples permission to forgo these top 10 age-old axioms for long-term marital bliss without fear of immediately marching off to divorce court.

•  Never Go to Bed Angry – possibly derived from the bible and grandma's favorite. Nonsense- you are both tired, get some sleep and discuss it later.
•  Honesty is the Best Policy – not true. Consider your partner's feelings and realize that he or she does not need to know every detail of your previous life.
•  All the Days of Our Lives – being happily married does not mean you are attached at the hip. You love the beach, he loves snowboarding. Separate trips are fine, just don't make it a habit.
•  One Heated Argument, Call the Attorney– not so fast! Research shows that couples who do not disagree are more likely to find themselves in divorce court.
•  The Kids Come First – a tough one to break. Parents who schedule date night are actually better parents and enjoy a stronger marriage.
•  Never Sleep in Separate beds – for those who are happily married to a spouse who snores, enough said.
•  Keep your Individuality – this is what first peeked your spouse's interest. Keep up on your hobbies, but do not let them consume all of your free time.
•  The Thrill is Gone – no it's not. The relationship has just evolved through the normal relationship cycle but it is in your best interest to set off some fireworks every once in a while.
•  Achieving Boredom – not all doom and gloom. This means you achieved the comfortable stage of your relationship by finding comfort in your daily lives together.
•  It's Friday Night – Time for Fireworks! - Could not be farther from the truth. Do not schedule your sex life for any reason. You will both know when the time is right.

For couples bound by generational marital law, we are more than happy to join Woman's Day and Ms. Bartlein and remove these axioms from the marital stone tablets. Unfortunately for others perhaps spending yet another Valentine's Day alone and realizing deep down in their hearts that their marriage is in deep trouble beyond repair, it may be time to contact an experienced divorce attorney to discuss their options. At A. Traub & Associates, we make it our goal to help our clients move past the experience quickly, effectively, and permanently. Contact us at 630-426-0196 to schedule your initial consultation today. We can help you.