New Year’s Resolutions for Separated Couples

 Posted on December 27, 2017 in Divorce

January is often a popular time for couples to separate or divorce because many people wait until after the holidays to start the process of splitting up. If you are considering divorcing your spouse, or you have already decided to, you probably know you have a long road ahead of you. There is no perfect way to divorce, but following experts’ advice may help save you and your spouse from unnecessary stress and conflict as you end your marriage. In the spirit of New Year’s resolutions, you may wish to:

Resolve to Communicate Better

Communication is one of the most important aspects to any relationship, and it does not become less important when a couple is no longer romantically involved. In order to undo a marriage, both members of it must be willing to talk to the other about the plans moving forward. Understandably, many individuals who are facing the end of their marriage are emotional. They may feel anger toward their spouse because of the hurtful things that happened during the marriage. Others who get divorced feel so upset that they shut down and stop communicating entirely. While these feelings are natural, refusing to cooperate with your spouse will only prolong the painful divorce process. Be willing to “be the bigger person” and work with your spouse, even if you resent him or her. You will be thankful that you did.

Resolve to Co-Parent Effectively

When you and your spouse have children together, the fact is that you will probably have to continue seeing and collaborating with your spouse long after the divorce. If you plan to share parental responsibilities regarding your kids, you will need to find a way to manage pick-ups and drop-offs, holiday schedules, school concerns, grandparent visitation, and other parenting tasks cooperatively.

Resolve to Enjoy Life Again

A famous comedian once said that no happy marriage ends in divorce. If you are planning to divorce your spouse, you have probably been unhappy in the marriage for a long time. After the divorce, resolve to do things which are meaningful to you and that you enjoy. After your divorce, you will probably have more time to yourself than you did previously. Use this time to explore the things that make you fulfilled in life and to pursue them.

Let Us Help

This January is the perfect time for a fresh start. If you are ready to start the divorce process, our competent and compassionate Lombard family law attorneys are ready to help. Call 630-426-0196 for a confidential consultation at A. Traub & Associates today.

Source:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201411/what-makes-successful-co-parenting-after-divorce

http://www.womansday.com/relationships/dating-marriage/advice/a6834/divorce-advice-women/