Phubbing Could Be Killing Your Marriage

 Posted on December 29, 2015 in Divorce

With today’s technology, there is world of information and connectivity available with just a few taps on your smartphone. Cell phones and mobile devices have become such a part of modern life that virtually everything that once accessible only by a desktop computer can now go with you everywhere. The potential downside, however, is that it can be easy to get lost in the virtual world and a recent study indicates that many relationships are starting to suffer as a result. Phone snubbing—or phubbing, as it has come to be called—is becoming a problem for many couples, as one or both partners are often distracted by their phones even while in each other’s company.

First Formal Research

A research group at the Baylor University’s Hankamer School of Business conducted a study that is being billed as the first of its kind, examining the effects of phubbing on relationship satisfaction. The findings, which were published in the journal Computers in Human Behavior, indicated that more than 45 percent of the 453 adults surveyed have been phubbed by their partner. Nearly a quarter of the respondents indicated that phubbing is causing conflict in their relationship. Co-author of the study, Professor James Roberts observed, "Something as common as cellphone use can undermine the bedrock of our happiness—our relationships with our romantic partners."

Do You Phub Your Partner?

In putting together their research, the team identified eight types of phubbing behavior that have become increasingly common for many people. Looking at the list, some of the behaviors may seem all too familiar in your own relationship. Do you:

• Regularly check your phone during a typical meal with your partner?
• Place your phone where you can see it when you are together?
• Keep your phone in your hand regularly when you are with your partner?
• Respond to beeps or notifications in the middle of a conversation?
• Glance at your phone while talking to your partner?
• Use your phone during leisure time with your partner?
• Use your phone while you and are partner are out together?
• Check your phone during lulls in a conversation with your partner?

Your cell phone use may be sending an implicit message to your partner regarding your priorities, the research team indicated. "When someone perceived that their partner phubbed them, this created conflict and led to lower levels of reported relationship satisfaction," Roberts said.

When It Becomes Too Much

If phone snubbing has become a significant problem in your marriage and divorce seems like an impending possibility, contact an experienced Lombard family law attorney. We will help you understand your options and the potential impact to your future. Schedule an appointment today at one of our two convenient office locations.

Sources:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2015/10/05/scientists-how-phubbing-or-phone-snubbing-can-kill-your-romantic-relationship/

http://www.today.com/health/does-he-love-his-cellphone-more-you-survey-t47046